You just walked out of another frustrating doctor’s visit where you feel like your concerns weren’t taken seriously. You wished you’d spoken up more, but the words didn’t come.
It can be hard to advocate for yourself during doctor’s appointments. You may worry about being seen as difficult or having them mark on your charts that you’re “noncompliant”. But you know your body best, and if you feel like a doctor is dismissive, you may have no choice but to speak up if you want your health concerns listened to and addressed. Here are a few tips on how to make your voice heard.
Be an Active Participant
Don’t let the doctor lead the entire appointment. You should have an active part in your own healthcare. Before you go, prepare a list of your top three concerns. Bring these up at the start of your appointment so your doctor knows what’s most on your mind. Ask questions about your diagnosis, treatment options, or anything you don’t understand. If you feel rushed, it’s okay to say, “I have a few more questions I’d like to discuss before we finish.”
Bring Someone With You
A second set of ears can be a huge asset. A trusted family member or companion can support you, take notes, and help you remember details after the appointment. They can also speak up on your behalf if you’re feeling overwhelmed or are not getting the answers you need. They can offer a different perspective and ask questions you might not have thought of.
Don’t Let Them Gaslight You
Many people have dealt with medical gaslighting before. It’s unfortunately especially common for those who are in minority groups, like women and Black people.
This is when a healthcare professional dismisses your symptoms or tells you it’s “all in your head.” Sometimes this can be hard to pick up on, but there are signs you’re being dismissed and that you may need to stand your ground and assert yourself. If your doctor repeatedly interrupts you, downplays your pain, or refuses to order tests without a clear reason, it might be time to seek a second opinion or find a healthcare provider who takes your concerns seriously.
Document Everything
Keep a detailed record of your symptoms. Write down when they started, what makes them better or worse, and how they affect your daily life. A symptom journal gives your doctor concrete data to work with. It also shows that you’ve been attentive to what’s happening with your body. This documentation can be helpful if you need to see another specialist or seek a second opinion later on.
Know When to Find a New Doctor
Sometimes, no matter what you do, a doctor just isn’t the right fit. If you consistently feel unheard, disrespected, or dismissed, it’s okay to find a new provider. You deserve a doctor who listens to you and works with you as a partner in your health. A fresh perspective from another professional can also offer new insights into your condition.
You’re Worth the Effort
It’s not easy advocating for yourself during doctor’s appointments, but it’s often necessary. Not always because a provider has bad intentions, either; sometimes, doctors don’t get the full picture until you tell them in greater detail or with new information. By taking these actions, you can help your doctor help you and get the care you need.
